I’ll be turning 25 in a few days. And I found a shiny silver curl in my beard one morning, coinciding my ‘silver’ jubilee birthday.
For a moment it was an overwhelmingly humbling reminder of my mortal and frail life. It was as if I could already hear the first faint mocking cries of old age and death from the distant future. 25 long years of innocence, anguish, happiness, beauty, and suffering have passed. I’ve indeed learned a lot in all these years. But I have not the faintest idea of what I have yet to know and learn.
Soon, the existential questions surfaced- Where did all those years go? What have I accomplished in these years?
I reflected back on the years I’ve wasted. Wait a minute, wasted? How do I define life being “useful” and life being “wasted”? I realized I bought into the idea I often get advised by people around me, who say that if I’m not working a 9–5 job, I’m “wasting my life”.
But how does working for someone not count as wasting my time? What actions in my life would make it worthwhile to be called useful? What would give meaning to my life?
The actions that made me feel like I’ve wasted my time are the things I didn’t really care about but did nevertheless for pleasing my teachers, parents and the society in general.
Most of it was a complete waste of time, including college. I would have learned a lot in those 4 years of my graduate studies if only I had taken the road less traveled, doing the things I really care and am passionate about.
The only times I wasn’t true to myself are things I regret the most.
Those are the only times i felt like I’ve wasted my time/life on.
The pursuit of purpose: Defining success for myself.
Casey Neistat is a professional storyteller and YouTube filmmaker with over 6 Million subscribers.
He seems like an ordinary guy narrating something about his life. I wondered, “What is it about this guy that makes millions on YouTube subscribe to him?”
The next thing I did was to look up Wikipedia about him. I learned that he used to be a dishwasher in a restaurant for 5 years. Later, he rose to fame making a video about Apple Ipod’s irreplaceable battery lasting only 18 months. I began taking a keen interest in the guy and eventually adore him.
Ever since then, I binge watch on his videos whenever I get time.
After watching almost all his videos, these are the lessons I’ve learned:
1. Always keep yourself busy and motivated.
“Free time is the enemy of progress.”
If you have a lot of free time, you’ll not make the best use of it. You could build a city with all your free time if you don’t while away your time, sitting around being bored.
Furthermore, always keep a backlog list of things you have to do so that just in case you have a free moment, you can go back to complete it.
It’s not that we have a short time to live but that we waste a lot of it- Ryan Holiday.
2. Be a maverick.
“In life, you have two options- you can do your own thing and stand out or do what everyone else is doing and fit in.”
Most often you’re trying to fit into the rules created by someone no smarter than you or me. So if you’re always conforming to the opinions, labels and rules of the society, you can never make an impact.
I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to do what everyone else is doing.
3. Live to express, not to impress.
One of the striking features of his videos is that he never goes out his way to impress the viewers. In fact, he’s very disappointed with modern social media. Instead of representing a digital version of who we are, we display a false sense of identity. Furthermore, Casey Neistat even started “BeMe”- a social media app which forces you to share content without any edits.
Quit trying to look “perfect”.
Although it makes yourself vulnerable, you’ll allow people the permission to trust you. And that is hard to earn. He doesn’t waste time touching things up to look cool or better. The man loves to be himself, which is also the reason so many of us love him.
4. Find your purpose- without a goal, you can’t score.
In life you should always be doing either of the two things:
Figuring out what you’re most passionate about- what do you want to be doing every day for the rest of your life.
And realizing those dreams and doing that for the rest of your life
If you don’t know where the goal post is, how do you know where to kick the ball.
Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he sometimes thinks he senses it.
But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people — first of all for those upon whose smiles and well-being our own happiness is wholly dependent, and then for the many, unknown to us, to whose destinies we are bound by the ties of sympathy.
“A hundred times every day I remind myself that my inner and outer life are based on the labors of other men, living and dead, and that I must exert myself in order to give in the same measure as I have received and am still receiving…”
“I have never looked upon ease and happiness as ends in themselves — this critical basis I call the ideal of a pigsty.
The ideals that have lighted my way, and time after time have given me new courage to face life cheerfully, have been Kindness, Beauty, and Truth.
Without the sense of kinship with men of like mind, without the occupation with the objective world, the eternally unattainable in the field of art and scientific endeavors, life would have seemed empty to me. The trite objects of human efforts — possessions, outward success, luxury — have always seemed to me …. contemptible. Continue reading “The world as I see it- Albert Einstien”
We often find ourselves feeling “Life is not fair” because of our desire for being just and fair. We want equality, justice and fairness in everything in life, our empathy stems from the very concept of being truthful.
One of the many seemingly simple yet one of the most significant and complex questions we find ourselves asking many often is,
“What does it mean to be Human?”
However, one of the most remarkable attributes that define humanity in the core of its being is the sense of longing for Truth and Justice.
Truth and its significance in ethics :
Even a man who violates Justice longs for it when he is in the victim’s stead.
Justice has as at its foundation, the principle of being Truthful; no wonder why scholars include the word ‘honesty’ as a synonym for Justice,
no one who’s true to himself and his conscience can oppose justness in the state of being truthful.