An Ode to Selfishness.

Sacrifice — A virtue, it’s taught

By books, sages and great men of the past

That selfishness is mean and naught.

To put other’s need and want

Ahead of your own thought and heart

But in the end, it leaves you bruised and wrought.

“Love thy neighbor as thyself” — we’re taught.

But how does one know LOVE, when love for oneself is lost?

Self-care isn’t selfish, it is anything but

For how does one serve others from an empty pot?

Show me a man who isn’t selfish and I’ll prove it a tort.

‘Cause the ones that don’t want the world to be self-thought

Are the ones that are the most selfish of the lot.

Why Successful people spend time alone with themselves ?

Creativity and innovation start with spending time with yourself alone.

It is in those moments of silence with yourself that those “Eureka” moments arise. Speaking of Eureka, Archimedes, discovered his principle when he was in his bathtub alone.

When Elon Musk was asked, “What daily habit do you believe has the largest positive impact on your life?”

Musk’s reply was hilarious and practical:

Showering !

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It’s hard to argue with that.

We tend to get our best ideas in the shower because that’s most often the time we all spend privately with ourselves.

All successful people have this in common, once a year, Bill Gates embarks on something called a ThinkWeek, where he disconnects from the internet and moves into a cabin in the woods.

Free of distraction, he can read a year’s worth of books and strategize ahead about the months to come in a state of ultimate productivity.

There are countless examples and reasons why you need to make it a habit of spending quality time with yourself. Taking some time off a few minutes every day will help you re-orient yourself and get you back on track.

So, don’t forget to spend some time alone with the awesome person reading this. 😉

18 Lessons I’ve learned from binge watching Casey Neistat’s videos.

Casey Neistat is a professional storyteller and YouTube filmmaker with over 6 Million subscribers.

 

Casey Neistat
He seems like an ordinary guy narrating something about his life. I wondered, “What is it about this guy that makes millions on YouTube subscribe to him?”
 
The next thing I did was to look up Wikipedia about him. I learned that he used to be a dishwasher in a restaurant for 5 years. Later, he rose to fame making a video about Apple Ipod’s irreplaceable battery lasting only 18 months. I began taking a keen interest in the guy and eventually adore him.
 
Ever since then, I binge watch on his videos whenever I get time.

After watching almost all his videos, these are the lessons I’ve learned:

1. Always keep yourself busy and motivated.

“Free time is the enemy of progress.”
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If you have a lot of free time, you’ll not make the best use of it. You could build a city with all your free time if you don’t while away your time, sitting around being bored.
Furthermore, always keep a backlog list of things you have to do so that just in case you have a free moment, you can go back to complete it. 
It’s not that we have a short time to live but that we waste a lot of it- Ryan Holiday.

2. Be a maverick.

“In life, you have two options- you can do your own thing and stand out or do what everyone else is doing and fit in.”
Most often you’re trying to fit into the rules created by someone no smarter than you or me. So if you’re always conforming to the opinions, labels and rules of the society, you can never make an impact.
I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to do what everyone else is doing.

3. Live to express, not to impress.

One of the striking features of his videos is that he never goes out his way to impress the viewers. In fact, he’s very disappointed with modern social media. Instead of representing a digital version of who we are, we display a false sense of identity. Furthermore, Casey Neistat even started “BeMe”- a social media app which forces you to share content without any edits.
 
Quit trying to look “perfect”.
 
Although it makes yourself vulnerable, you’ll allow people the permission to trust you. And that is hard to earn. He doesn’t waste time touching things up to look cool or better. The man loves to be himself, which is also the reason so many of us love him.

4. Find your purpose- without a goal, you can’t score.

In life you should always be doing either of the two things:
  1. Figuring out what you’re most passionate about- what do you want to be doing every day for the rest of your life.
  2. And realizing those dreams and doing that for the rest of your life
If you don’t know where the goal post is, how do you know where to kick the ball.

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Time > Money !

Ignore Gold and Bitcoin, how about Time as the new currency?

We don’t have time for anything anymore, not for relationships, family or even life itself. What’s the use of money when you don’t have the time to spend it?

The Industrial Age taught us the only way to make money was to trade time for it. The deal was clear and has always been the same: You give me 8-10 hours of your day, and I’ll give you some money.

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This one thing can determine the kind of guy you’ll marry.

If I had to pick one quality that most determines the person you’ll marry it is this – Self-Esteem.

Self-Esteem and Relationships:

When you have a low self-worth, you’ll sell yourself short to some half-smiling wit passing by and allow them to trample over you.

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Scene from “The perks of being a wallflower”

Having a low self-esteem makes you vulnerable to crafty men who lure you with unrealistic praises. Ignorant & gullible women blush and giggle at obvious flattering flirtations and fall prey to guys who use them for their own benefits.

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“Do I even look beautiful?” she asked. This is my reply.

 

"Hey, you've seen me, right ? 
 
Do I even look beautiful ? "


Only yesterday, I got this message from one of my friends. As soon as I read that message, I felt truly sorry for her.

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Here was a late teenage girl who wasn’t comfortable in her own skin;

beauty enough

 

If tomorrow women all over the world looked in the mirror and if they liked what they saw reflected back at them, the cosmetic companies would go bankrupt.

Guys, if a girl ever asks you that question, remember this: She has placed her precious and invaluable Self-Worth in the power of your response and you better be careful and tread lightly. Continue reading ““Do I even look beautiful?” she asked. This is my reply.”

10 Reasons to be grateful if you’re able to read this.

Being able to read this in and of itself is a wonderful reason to be grateful for what you have in life.

Yes,

You read that right!

I’m not being egotistical here nor saying that there’s a reason to be grateful just because you are fortunate enough to stumble upon this article.
And definitely not because it’s MY Blog that you’re reading.

The reason to be grateful, that I’m talking about goes beyond that.

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The moment my life flashed before my eyes

Behind every scar is a story of survival.

“My whole life flashed in front of me in a second.” said Sir Richard Branson when he met with a bike accident recently.

When I read that, I went back in time to the point when I was lying on the road, just like that.

Near-death experience
Image from Helen Clarke/Virgin.com
I thought to myself, I know exactly what he is talking about because I’ve been there too.

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9 Reasons why you need to spend time alone with yourself

1. You get to know more about yourself.

3When you take leave from the busy-ness of your mundane world and spend time in solitude, you’ll start knowing more about yourself.

“Know Thyself” was the maxim written on the ancient Greek temple of Apollo at Delphi.

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Knowing yourself or Self-awareness is at the foundation of Emotional Intelligence.

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Why I talk to myself and why you should too ?

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Robert De Niro’s famous soliloquy from the movie ‘Taxi Driver’. Credits: giphy

When we see someone talking to themselves and indulging in serious soliloquy, we jump to the general stereotype that such a person is weird or insane(schizophrenic, to be precise).

 

But studies from psychologists show that in fact talking to yourself will make you smarter, relieves stress, retain focus and organize your thoughts more effectively.

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