1. Complaining- Instead of doing something about it.
If you find yourself complaining about others, or even worse, for your own situation in life, there’s a pretty good chance you’ve been playing the blame game and have not taken full responsibility for your life, yet!
Except if it’s because of your ill-health and other misfortunes, YOU are responsible for your situation in life.
People who complain often, rarely take responsibility for their actions in life.
They get used to complaining, instead of doing something about it. They don’t take the matter by the horns and wrestle through it to completion; Instead, they’re just comfortable being cowardly, fooling themselves that somehow someone else is to be blamed for their own inability, indecisiveness, and timidity.
Remember, if you’re complaining, you’re incidentally waiting on someone else to solve your problems for you. Agreeing by default, that YOU are incapable of doing anything about it.
I’ll be turning 25 in a few days. And I found a shiny silver curl in my beard one morning, coinciding my ‘silver’ jubilee birthday.
For a moment it was an overwhelmingly humbling reminder of my mortal and frail life. It was as if I could already hear the first faint mocking cries of old age and death from the distant future. 25 long years of innocence, anguish, happiness, beauty, and suffering have passed. I’ve indeed learned a lot in all these years. But I have not the faintest idea of what I have yet to know and learn.
Soon, the existential questions surfaced- Where did all those years go? What have I accomplished in these years?
I reflected back on the years I’ve wasted. Wait a minute, wasted? How do I define life being “useful” and life being “wasted”? I realized I bought into the idea I often get advised by people around me, who say that if I’m not working a 9–5 job, I’m “wasting my life”.
But how does working for someone not count as wasting my time? What actions in my life would make it worthwhile to be called useful? What would give meaning to my life?
The actions that made me feel like I’ve wasted my time are the things I didn’t really care about but did nevertheless for pleasing my teachers, parents and the society in general.
Most of it was a complete waste of time, including college. I would have learned a lot in those 4 years of my graduate studies if only I had taken the road less traveled, doing the things I really care and am passionate about.
The only times I wasn’t true to myself are things I regret the most.
Those are the only times i felt like I’ve wasted my time/life on.
The pursuit of purpose: Defining success for myself.
Casey Neistat is a professional storyteller and YouTube filmmaker with over 6 Million subscribers.
He seems like an ordinary guy narrating something about his life. I wondered, “What is it about this guy that makes millions on YouTube subscribe to him?”
The next thing I did was to look up Wikipedia about him. I learned that he used to be a dishwasher in a restaurant for 5 years. Later, he rose to fame making a video about Apple Ipod’s irreplaceable battery lasting only 18 months. I began taking a keen interest in the guy and eventually adore him.
Ever since then, I binge watch on his videos whenever I get time.
After watching almost all his videos, these are the lessons I’ve learned:
1. Always keep yourself busy and motivated.
“Free time is the enemy of progress.”
If you have a lot of free time, you’ll not make the best use of it. You could build a city with all your free time if you don’t while away your time, sitting around being bored.
Furthermore, always keep a backlog list of things you have to do so that just in case you have a free moment, you can go back to complete it.
It’s not that we have a short time to live but that we waste a lot of it- Ryan Holiday.
2. Be a maverick.
“In life, you have two options- you can do your own thing and stand out or do what everyone else is doing and fit in.”
Most often you’re trying to fit into the rules created by someone no smarter than you or me. So if you’re always conforming to the opinions, labels and rules of the society, you can never make an impact.
I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to do what everyone else is doing.
3. Live to express, not to impress.
One of the striking features of his videos is that he never goes out his way to impress the viewers. In fact, he’s very disappointed with modern social media. Instead of representing a digital version of who we are, we display a false sense of identity. Furthermore, Casey Neistat even started “BeMe”- a social media app which forces you to share content without any edits.
Quit trying to look “perfect”.
Although it makes yourself vulnerable, you’ll allow people the permission to trust you. And that is hard to earn. He doesn’t waste time touching things up to look cool or better. The man loves to be himself, which is also the reason so many of us love him.
4. Find your purpose- without a goal, you can’t score.
In life you should always be doing either of the two things:
Figuring out what you’re most passionate about- what do you want to be doing every day for the rest of your life.
And realizing those dreams and doing that for the rest of your life
If you don’t know where the goal post is, how do you know where to kick the ball.